On Wednesday night, we loaded up some stuff in the back of my car and took it to the county Hazardous Waste Drop-Off site (motor oil, fluorescent light bulbs, that sort of thing)… we felt pretty good about ourselves and our “adulting” after that.
Sometimes it’s things like making big purchases, like a new car, or deciding to re-side the house; lots of things to do with the house really. Training other people how to do my job. Realizing that I am the one at my job with seniority and “institutional knowledge” (because I’ve been here almost 16 years).
But mostly, it’s the really ordinary boring stuff, like checking to make sure all the doors are locked before going to bed, loading the dishwasher even though I don’t want to, that sort of thing. It’s funny, as kids we see adults and assume they all feel like adults, because they act like adults. But as adults, we realize that most people still feel like they’re faking being adults and wonder when everyone else is going to catch on. 🙂
My recommendation? Top notch cheese. I think I’m going to make these again (once I finish what I have), then modify the recipe to be jalapeno popper-flavored. Because when I have a cheese scone in front of me with green flecks (or, in this case, yellow/green flecks), I just want it to be jalapenos. So, keep the zucchini, but add in some jalapenos and maybe some chopped/crumbled bacon. Because who doesn’t love bacon. That’s not to say I don’t recommend the original recipe just as it is – I do. It just turns out that I want my cheddar scones to be… different.
Note, this was my first time making scones from scratch. I’m a big fan of scone mixes, where I can buy them on clearance after the holidays, make up the dough, shape them onto cookie sheets and then freeze so I can make up just a few at a time. This was my first time not using a mix, and I felt quite proud of myself for having gotten it right and everything turning out as it should. Like, ridiculously pleased with myself.
Throwback Thursday. A photo with you and someone you love. Tell us about your relationship.
My sister, Alison! Oh, how I love her! Growing up, we didn’t always have the best of relationships, but as adults we have grown to understand and appreciate each other for who we are, and I am proud to have her not just as a sister but as a friend. Here’s a few pics of us together over the last almost-40 years.
Advice you wish you could give everyone. Things you’ve learned you wish you knew earlier.
Advice I would give my younger self: the world is so much bigger than what you’ve experienced. Everyone’s experiences are different. No one has gone through exactly what you have, but you don’t know what they’ve gone through either. Give everyone a little more grace, more patience, more compassion. You don’t know what they’re going through right now, the experiences they’ve had that have shaped their decisions and personality. Even if you think you know them, you don’t know everything about them. Stop being so judgmental. It doesn’t help the situation. What does help? Offer compassion and understanding. Think of all of the reasons for their actions/words. Give people the benefit of the doubt. And remember that the way you choose to live your life is just that, your choice; the way others choose to live their lives is up to them.
What I wish I knew earlier: that it does, in fact, get better. Everything. Sometimes it gets worse again, but generally the trend is upward. That you will always miss the people who are no longer in your life, but you can cherish the time you had together. That the things you were teased about as a child/teenager will be the things you are most known for (and others are most jealous of) as an adult. That you’re going to turn into your mother and that’s OK. That all of the bad experiences make you who you are, and who you are is pretty amazing. That going off Celexa is way worse than going on, so maybe just don’t. That it’s easier to lose weight the younger you are, so you probably should have done that 10 years ago. That as an adult, no one is cool, everyone is a bit weird and quirky, and no one wants to go back to high school. That things usually don’t turn out the way you think they will, and usually that’s OK; sometimes they turn out better, sometimes they turn out worse, and sometimes you get lucky. That every experience can be learned from.
Blanching the broccoli has resulted in a gradual yellowing of the broccoli, which is slightly unappetizing. The dressing is not as flavorful as I would have liked – perhaps I needed more garlic, or more mustard? But I also forgot the toasted almonds the first day, so hopefully that will help. Added a handful of fresh parsley (also from the garden) and some shallot leftover from Monday night’s dinner. Overall I think it’s a good recipe, even if it does need a bit more to fully satisfy. If today’s attempts are unsuccessful, tomorrow I’m adding an avocado. That never fails to please.
Galway! Not much time here, but lovely. Not pictured: rabbit pie and the lovely Aran Islands sweater that’s my best souvenir (it was so hard to choose between all the lovely colors, styles, and those very lovely cables).