Advice you wish you could give everyone. Things you’ve learned you wish you knew earlier.
Advice I would give my younger self: the world is so much bigger than what you’ve experienced. Everyone’s experiences are different. No one has gone through exactly what you have, but you don’t know what they’ve gone through either. Give everyone a little more grace, more patience, more compassion. You don’t know what they’re going through right now, the experiences they’ve had that have shaped their decisions and personality. Even if you think you know them, you don’t know everything about them. Stop being so judgmental. It doesn’t help the situation. What does help? Offer compassion and understanding. Think of all of the reasons for their actions/words. Give people the benefit of the doubt. And remember that the way you choose to live your life is just that, your choice; the way others choose to live their lives is up to them.
What I wish I knew earlier: that it does, in fact, get better. Everything. Sometimes it gets worse again, but generally the trend is upward. That you will always miss the people who are no longer in your life, but you can cherish the time you had together. That the things you were teased about as a child/teenager will be the things you are most known for (and others are most jealous of) as an adult. That you’re going to turn into your mother and that’s OK. That all of the bad experiences make you who you are, and who you are is pretty amazing. That going off Celexa is way worse than going on, so maybe just don’t. That it’s easier to lose weight the younger you are, so you probably should have done that 10 years ago. That as an adult, no one is cool, everyone is a bit weird and quirky, and no one wants to go back to high school. That things usually don’t turn out the way you think they will, and usually that’s OK; sometimes they turn out better, sometimes they turn out worse, and sometimes you get lucky. That every experience can be learned from.