Tuesday Twosome

  1. Be the person next door or the fantasy person that appears unattainable? (explain) Haven’t I always been the girl next door? I doubt I was ever considered to be the unattainable fantasy. And I think girl-next-door would be better anyways, because while the fantasy might have more admirers, the girl next door doesn’t end up alone (usually).
  2. Lie to maintain a “goody-goody” rep or not care what people thought about you? (explain) First of all, any goody-goody reputation I have isn’t because I lied about it, but because people assumed things without asking what reality was. But, I’d prefer to not care what others think about me. I’m sure I don’t do as good of a job at this as I’d like to (I’m not immune to knowing what others think about me or caring about it), but I’d like to think that I at least have escaped the fate of being a people pleaser.
  3. Go back in time to undo your mistakes or deal with the mistakes and learn from it? (explain) Well, I try to live on the premise of not having regrets (which is true for the most part), which means that I have to deal with my mistakes and learn from them. For instance, when a former friend of mine died last spring and I hadn’t seen her, I regretted that (one of the few things in my life I truly regret), and so when my aunt got sick this summer, I made sure to write her a letter and do what I could to feel as though I ended that relationship the way I wanted to. In the end, I still wish that I had gone down to visit her one last time, because I think that would have helped me in the grieving process (though being perfectly honest with myself it would have been extremely difficult to do so, both emotionally and logistically speaking, and wasn’t really practical to take a trip at the time). So I’ll try to learn from that as well.
  4. Be friends with people that make you look good or people that make you appear to have an edge? (explain) Neither. I prefer to be friends with people who make me feel good about myself and who challenge me in some way and who are smart and who are generally good, nice people.
  5. Stay friends with a person that betrays you or break it off and not give her/him another chance? (explain) Loyalty is a big thing with me. Mom used to say of my friendships (in elementary school, no joke) that I was loyal to a fault. That being said, however, betraying my loyalty, depending on the situation, could be an unforgivable offense. I’d like to think that I’d extend grace, since we are all fallible and I’ve enacted my fair share of offenses. But it’s possible that I could be in just the right mood to say to myself, “enough is enough, I need to respect myself more than this, and I can’t do this anymore.” So… best I can say is, I’ll try my hardest to not betray my friends, and good luck to you if you betray me.