OK, I know there are a lot of dating books out there full of crap advice. This stuff is from a book I haven’t read and summarized by someone I don’t actually know. But I’m putting it out here anyways because it’s too long to IM or email about, and, well, I’m interested in your thoughts. You being my collective reading audience, male and female alike. (And, giving credit where credit’s due, I totally took this verbatim from a post on’s dating forum, just deleted some that weren’t worth discussing or irrelevant.)

  1. Be a “creature unlike any other” (besides positively affirming yourself and believing in yourself, taking good care of yourself, they also include nutrition, weight loss, exercise, dressing well and even encourage long hair!!)
  2. Don’t talk to a man first (and don’t ask him to dance)
  3. Don’t stare at men or talk too much
  4. Don’t meet him halfway or go dutch on a date
  5. Don’t call him and rarely return his calls
  6. Always end phone calls first
  7. Don’t accept a Saturday night date after Wednesday
  8. Fill up your time before the date
  9. How to act on dates 1,2, and 3
  10. How to act on dates 4 through commitment time
  11. Always end the date first
  12. Stop dating him if he doesn’t buy you a romantic gift for your birthday or valentines day
  13. Don’t see him more than once or twice a week
  14. No more than casual kissing on the first date
  15. Don’t rush into sex and other rules for intimacy
  16. Don’t tell him what to do
  17. Let him take the lead
  18. Don’t expect a man to change or try to change him
  19. Don’t open up too fast
  20. Be honest but mysterious
  21. Accentuate the positive and other rules for personal ads
  22. Don’t live with a man (or leave your things in his apartment)
  23. Don’t date a married man
  24. Slowly involve him in your family and other rules for women with children
  25. Love only those who love you
  26. Be easy to live with

I’m sure I could spend all day blogging about this, but I’d rather hear your thoughts first.

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    Out of 26 items, I can vaguely agree with…um…5…and a half.

    8, 14, 18, 19, 23 I can fully agree with.

    Number 1 I can agree with to some extent…but the whole long hair thing…WTF!?!?! What does the length of your hair have to do with anything?! Kiss my butt!